One of the toughest phases to go through in your dating life is being in a long-distance relationship. A long-distance relationship is one where partners have to travel for an hour or more hours to see each other. This is according to a study published in 2017: Moving in or Breaking Up? The Role of Distance in the Development of Romantic Relationships. Before Entering a Long-Distance Relationship you need to read this to the very end.
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Over the years, relationship experts and coaches have shared tips that are meant to help those in a long-distance relationship cope and make things work but these tips often do not work because they are shared by people who haven’t experienced it.
From experience, making your long-distance relationship work takes a lot of effort and the tips below are not guaranteed to work for you. The least it can do for you is to help you to continue hoping that your long-distance relationship won’t fail in the first few years.
Before Entering a Long-Distance Relationship Consider the Following:
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1. Before Anything Else don’t go into it with someone you don’t have much in common with.:
This is the mistake most people make but if you are dating someone you don’t share certain interests and activities with then forget about making it work in a long-distance relationship.
It will only be a matter of time before the two of you get bored with each other’s company. Why? Because there wouldn’t be much to talk about on the phone or experiences that you both might be interested in listening to.
Long distance relationships are something I would advise everyone against especially if you both plan to stay away for more than 2-3 years.
2. Communication Must Be Intentional:
Communication isn’t about just talking for long hours non-stop. The best way to communicate in a relationship is listening. In a long-distance relationship, every feeling behind a word and every tone matters. Even body language.
Communicating with your partner encompasses conveying a thought, or a feeling and receiving an appropriate response. In a long-distance relationship, you only get to do this through a phone call, or video call making it hard for your intent to be effectively conveyed.
Before entering a long Distance Relationship you need to keep in mind that there are going to be a lot of misunderstandings and quarrels often because of miscommunication. This is not to discourage you but to prepare you for what comes next.
3. Embrace Misunderstanding and fights.
Couples who even share the same roof and get to spend much time together exploring and enjoying each other’s company fight often, how much more do you who is going into a long-distance relationship? It is an inevitable part of dating someone miles away.
You cannot avoid such fights so keep this in mind. At best it helps you to condition your mind to face anything that comes. You should consider who you are embarking on this journey with before entering a long-distance Relationship.
4. You are most likely to be cheated on.
Unless your partner is a tree then you can rest assured that they don’t have sexual desires and hence can’t cheat on you, if not just know that he or she is at risk of being tempted.
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The recipe for cheating in a long-distance relationship is:
- 1 Neglect from a partner,
- 2 Bad communication.
- 3. Lack of Intimacy and creativity
- 4. Little to no shared interest
- 5. And a little bit of disrespect.
For those already in long distance relationship If you feel you are experiencing any of the above, then now would be the good time to talk to your partner so you can equally
5. Different work and time schedules will test your relationship through fire.
For those who may find themselves in different time zones just know that your relationship may not last. Because the time you regard your free time to engage your partner may be the time your partner in another country would be getting ready for work.
A lot of relationships have ended because of this issue and yours isn’t so special. When it happens like that you both miss out on each other’s lives.
6. Breakup is highly probable if you can’t embrace flaws:
The hard reality in any relationship whether long-distance or not is that a breakup is possible. When it gets to a point where both parties cannot cope with themselves the next step is usually to split up.
This happens all the time the only difference is there is a higher probability of it happening in a long-distance relationship.
As earlier stated these points The success of any relationship, whether long-distance or not, depends on the individuals involved, their communication skills, and their ability to maintain trust and commitment. While long-distance relationships face unique challenges, they can thrive with effective communication, trust-building, and a shared commitment to making the relationship work.
Remember, every relationship is unique, and success or failure can’t be solely predicted based on the distance factor. It’s about the quality of connection and the effort both partners put into maintaining a strong and healthy bond.
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